If you’re looking for a sign, this is it. I’m telling you, right here, right now: it’s okay to not be okay. All too often nowadays, we feel this pressure to always be okay; to never feel down, never let ourselves feel ANYTHING; to always be cheerful and happy and upbeat. We feel pressure to always answer the question “How are you?” with “I’m fine/good/great/whatever” instead of the actual truth.
Starting today, allow yourself to truly feel whatever it is you’re feeling. It’s okay to be sad about losing a loved one, a friend moving away, a job change, finishing a good book, whatever. It’s okay to be hurt. It’s okay to be upset. It’s okay to be angry (as long as you aren’t physically hurting anyone.) It’s okay to be happy.
Yes, you read that last one right. It’s okay to be happy. That’s one I sometimes have to remind myself of. That despite all the crappy things going on in the world, all the pain and stress, all the struggles people I know may be dealing with, it’s still okay for me to be happy.
Allowing yourself to feel is something you should give yourself permission for every day, for the rest of your life. Life is too short, too fragile, for us to hold back.
Feel. Then act. That’s the key. Feel sad; then do something to fix it. Feel angry; then act to change the situation. Feel hurt, and feel it as long as you need to; but then pick yourself back up, and do something about it.
It’s okay to feel however you’re feeling right now. I promise.