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Vulnerability

Writing Prompt: Vulnerability

Is it necessary to be vulnerable if you want to become closer with someone? This week, write an essay that gives advice to those looking to be more open with the people they know. Use your personal experience to discuss whether vulnerability has helped create stronger connections, or if an alternative experience offered positive results for tighter bonds.

There is absolutely a certain degree of vulnerability that comes with getting to know people, and with being more open and honest with those you already know. In order to create stronger connections with the people in our lives, we have to be willing to actually let them in our lives.

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The Love Letter Project

I’ve had this post saved in my drafts for some time, but I finally feel like I can dedicate the time it deserves. This post is a response to The Love Letter Project:

“Consider the greatest challenge you’ve overcome in life and write a love letter to help a perfect stranger overcome that same challenge. I’m asking you to write a love letter because your personal story will make a powerful difference in the lives of others. You could write a love letter to anyone: an entrepreneur who is struggling with her first business, a man who has lost his job, or a child who is being bullied at school. Write a love letter about a challenge you faced, and you will touch hearts, lift spirits, and show the world that no one is alone.”

My letter will be posted on TLLP’s website, but I wanted to post it here, too. It seems like the site hasn’t been updated in some time, but hopefully it will be soon. In the meantime, here’s my first letter – and I hope to write several more. This really seems like such a wonderful project, and reaching out to those who may be struggling with a challenge that you’ve overcome in your life is an absolutely wonderful way to help the world.

Without further ado, here’s my letter.

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Daily Challenge: Unclutter Your Mailbox(es)

How often do your check your email? How about your mailbox at home?

For the majority of people, it seems like we check our email at least once a day, if not more. Some of us are constantly connected to our inboxes, with our cell phones in the palm of our hand nearly 24/7. As soon as a message pops up, boom, it’s opened, read, or deleted.

And let’s face it, most people open their mailbox at home on a daily basis.

What common denominator do these things have? Both are oftentimes filled with junk.

A couple weeks ago, I realized that I don’t even read half of the emails I receive. I’m not interested in them. They’re newsletters or advertisements from companies that I guess I signed up with at one point or another; but is it worth keeping around if I’m deleting literally every piece of mail from them? Nah.

So I undertook a project to unclutter my inbox. Rather than just quickly brushing through and deleting those “I don’t care about this” emails, I opened some of them. I scrolled through and found ways to unsubscribe from a lot of them, and boy, it makes a difference. Now, instead of getting some 50+ emails daily that I never open and send straight to the trash, I get far fewer, and it feels better.

It’s also interesting how difficult some places make it for you to unsubscribe from their lists. Some are easy – just a simple click of the link at the bottom of the email, and you’re done. (Sure, it can still take a few days for you to fully come off the list, but it’s an easy, one-step process.) Some are more difficult; you have to click the link and then complete a survey about WHY you’re unsubscribing before they’ll let you off.

And one I’ve encountered is even stickier; it’s an online survey site that makes you login to your account, delete your account and then unsubscribe from there. Considering I can’t remember my username or password, that’s…. too much work.

The same goes for your physical mailbox, too. At one point, I was coming home DAILY to credit card offers from Chase. Literally, every day, I’d find another – often the exact same mailing.

Initially, I just recycled them; I knew they weren’t something I was interested in, and didn’t care to waste my time even opening them.

One day, though, I got absolutely fed up. It was a waste of my time to get them; a waste of the mailman’s time to bring them, and an absolute waste of paper (my biggest concern, to be honest, even though I was recycling them.) I opened it to find a handy-dandy little phone number to call in order to remove your name from receiving unsolicited credit card offers. Huzzah! It’s a number from the federal government, I called, and it got me off scot-free for a few years.

I haven’t gotten any junk mail like that in weeks now, and boy, does it feel good.

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How to Be Happy

happy (adjective): characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy

The project of allowing myself to be happy has, arguably, been one of my biggest struggles. I’m not sure why it’s so difficult to allow myself to feel true happiness, to be certain that things are okay, to smile and live in the moment and not worry about what’s coming down the line, or when things are going to get bad again.

I’m both my best friend, and my worst enemy, as cliched as I realize that sounds. Because while I’m the one who can always bring myself up, find something to smile about, get myself into a positive, chipper mood… I’m also the one who can doubt herself and everything around her, wait for something bad to happen (and fear that it inevitably will), and revert back to days of old where it felt like I was surrounded by clouds of darkness, sadness and general unhappiness.

It’s easy to trip up and fall back into a pit of concern; a pit of questioning… “Is everything really okay? Maybe I made this person angry, or I’m annoying them. Maybe that compliment was them just being nice. Maybe I really am just as worthless and hopeless as I used to feel in those days, years ago.”

It’s not like I can’t be happy. I know I can; but it’s that nagging thing in the back of my mind that says “How can you be happy right now? Things are on the precipice of falling apart; this little happy charade you’re playing out is going to be over soon, so don’t even bother.” It’s as though, many times, when I begin to feel happiness, like life is really, really good, there’s a little voice asking me “…. well, are you sure?”

Allowing myself to be happy means pushing that thought off a tall cliff. It means recognizing that I deserve to be happy, truly happy. I’ve worked hard to get to where I am today, and all my past issues be darned, I’m doing this thing.

It means swallowing my fears and recognizing that realistically, things aren’t always going to be okay. Life isn’t always filled with sunshine and rainbows; there’s going to be a cloud every once in a while, and sometimes a storm. But just because a storm comes, that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the sun, too.

Allowing myself to be happy means not worrying about the storm; not waiting for the storm to come, or waiting for the other shoe to drop, as some might say. That’s not a good pit to fall into, and I’m really, really trying not to. I’m trying to embrace the positive things in my life, and allow myself to be happy — because I’ve earned it, damn it.

I just wish it wasn’t so hard sometimes, but the important thing is, I’m trying.

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Daily Challenge: Take More Photos

Good morning (or afternoon, or evening, depending on your locale), my readers!

Today’s daily challenge will hopefully get you out of the box and thinking. Instead of a writing challenge, it’s a visual challenge. All you need is a camera – be it from a cell phone or other mobile device, or an actual camera, it doesn’t matter.

Your challenge for today is to take photos. If you had to describe your day to someone using ONLY photos – not words – what would you choose to photograph? How about if it was limited to 10 photos, or even five, or maybe just one?

Photography is a beautiful way for us to appreciate the world around us and the experiences we have in our lives. Some photographs can speak volumes; some have massive amounts of detail, while others are so simple yet say so much.

Some people might say that a photograph is nothing compared to the real experiences of life, and that’s definitely true. After all, seeing photos of your all-time favorite band in concert can’t even come to close to providing the true experience of being there in person: the music, the people, and that palpable taste in the air of the excitement and energy all around. A photo of a wedding can capture the smiling bride and groom, but it can’t capture the complete feelings of love and pure joy that surrounded the happy couple.

Photos are great for capturing moments, and if done right, they can capture emotions, too. But to make myself clear, photographs aren’t substitutions for real life experiences, and I’m not trying to speak as though they are.

This challenge is really about opening up your eyes to really experience your day in a visual manner, and to figure out how to best express that day to other people. Personally, I usually take photos to serve not as memories, but to jog MY memory in reflecting back on experiences I’ve had. If I think about a vacation I took years ago, I may not remember every experience, but looking back at photos brings up all sorts of swell memories, inside jokes, flashbacks of conversations, etc. It enhances the memories that I’ve already gotten.

So don’t use the photographs as an excuse to not fully enjoy or experience your day — but use them as a way to frame the context of your day.