Book Review: Reigniting the Spark

As a result of another book review I did on here, I got an offer to read & review this book: Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy and How to Get It Back. I was provided a free copy of this book to read & review, and it took me longer than I’d like to admit to finally dive into it. (I’m going to blame this partly on the fact that we’re living in a pandemic right now, and I’ve had a hard time finding time or energy to do much of anything some days!)

I want to start off by saying this, as it’s how the book was marketed to me and also something I found true while reading it: this book is a valuable read for anyone. I think the title implies that it’s only for people who are in unstable relationships, who are having problems, etc. but I took a lot of value from this book despite the fact that I am in a stable relationship. After all, none of us are perfect. There’s always room for growth and improvement in our relationships, and we should always be working on them. Don’t get complacent!

This book focuses on a few main premises. While I won’t go into too much detail, the first premise is this: kindness is key. It’s about how we treat other people, and whether we see ourselves and our relationship as a unit or as two individuals. It’s about treating your partner as one of your kin:

“Kindness isn’t merely being pleasant to others, or serving their needs, or even putting their needs before your own. You can do all those things in a subservient relationship, out of a sense of civic-mindedness, or as an expression of a religious calling. You can and should do good deeds for employers and employees, neighbors, or even strangers, but that sort of kindness is not what keeps people together as a couple.”

The author then dials in on the two “golden gifts” in a relationship: stability and intimacy. You need both of these in order to make a relationship work, and you’ll learn more about this in a couple chapters worth of content. From examining one’s character, to lowering your partner’s anxiety, both of these factors are necessary pieces for a good, solid relationship.

“If stability provides the roots for a relationship, intimacy provides the energy for growth.”

From there, the book dives further into stability and intimacy, what these mean and how they can and cannot be found.

“You can only say yes if you know you’re able to say no.”

Also, don’t be afraid when the author starts talking about religion in the beginning. This is not a religious book, and you don’t need to follow any certain set of beliefs in order to read it or take anything from it.

With all of this said, I think there’s a lot of good content in this book, and if you’re reading it, you’re probably the type of person who’s willing to absorb some of its advice and wisdom. Regardless, I think it’s important to keep in mind: this book isn’t going to “save” your relationship, if your relationship needs saving. You, and your partner, putting in the work – perhaps *aided* by the advice you get from this book – will.

This book is published by TCK Publishing and is available in multiple formats on Amazon.

Book Review: A Love Letter Life

A Love Letter Life: Pursue Creatively. Date Intentionally. Love Faithfully is a fairly new release by Jeremy & Audrey Roloff. If you watch “reality TV” at all, you’ve probably heard of the couple and, particularly, Jeremy’s family. But over the past few years, Jeremy & Audrey have branched out on their own and created the enterprises of Beating 50 Percent and Always More, to name a few.

I’ve “followed” them for a while now, and for as long as I can remember, they’ve been big on encouraging couples in their relationships with one another, so it only makes sense that it would be the subject of their (first) book!

In many ways, I admire what Jeremy and Audrey are doing. There is SO much content out there nowadays, and also – so many examples of “bad” relationships. It’s refreshing, quite frankly, to see a couple focused on their marriage, on fostering their love, and on helping others to do the same. They never claim to be experts, and they’re realistic – and authentic, for the most part. They’re not afraid to share the good times of their relationship on social media, but they’re careful to let people know that it’s not always sunshine and rainbows.

With that said, I was eager to dive into their book!

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13 Cute Date Night Ideas For Winter

For those of us who live where winter sometimes feels like minus-10 degrees and brings snow up to our knees, it can be challenging to stay creative and find fun things to do for romantic nights out!

Seriously, I’ve read some of these lists and while they’re full of great ideas, some just aren’t… well, practical! If it’s below freezing, sometimes the last thing you want to do is even think about going outside; sometimes it’s enough of a struggle to bundle up in five layers just to run to the car!

So how, on these sometimes frigid days of winter, are we supposed to find fun things to do? (Aside from just staying warm and cozy in bed and snuggling up with your loved one — which is NEVER a bad idea?)

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Finding Love in the Little Things

If you want to show your love for someone, you don’t necessarily have to think about making a “big” gesture. This is something I was thinking about over the past few days; the more I thought about it, the more I realized: love, and the way we express it, is really in the little things. The small gestures we do, sometimes mindlessly, can sometimes be the best displays of love we can give another person.

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10 Things You Should Know Before Your Wedding



If you’re reading this, congratulations! You’re likely engaged, or at least heading toward a wedding. It will be the most incredible, beautiful day of your life. You’ll probably deal with at least some stress beforehand, but when all is said and done, you’ll get to spend a wonderful life with your partner.

That being said, here are a few things I learned along the way to help YOU relieve stress and enjoy your special day!

It’s your wedding, not anyone else’s. It’s easy to feel pressure from friends, parents, etc. They’re all likely well-meaning, but it’s your wedding day, not theirs. It’s up to you how much input you want to let others have on things like your wedding dress (Say Yes to the Dress, anyone?), food, etc. We’ve all seen that list circulating the Internet about “stupid wedding trends” or whatever, but my thought is this: DO WHAT YOU WANT. WHATEVER YOU WANT. Seriously. Whoever you want in your bridal party, invite them; and whoever you don’t, don’t. Whatever band you want to hire, go for it! Same goes for the food, the venue, the dress, and all that jazz.

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