Please, Don’t Ask People If They’re Expecting (Etc.)

When I first got married, I guess some part of me knew that the question would eventually come. I wasn’t sure when, or how, or who would ask it, but I knew, sooner or later, someone would ask if (or when) we were planning to have children. We did get a few questions right off the bat – literally, just days, maybe even hours, after the I-dos… “Are you guys thinking about kids?” “Do you guys want kids?”

I roll my eyes already. We’ve barely been married a few hours, or a few days, and already, the conversation has turned to our potential parenting at some point in the future.

I want to put it straight right here, before I go any further. It is absolutely, completely okay (and awesome) if people have children right after they get married, or soon after. It’s also awesome if they have children before they get married. It’s awesome if people choose to wait. It’s awesome if people choose to never have kids. It is completely up to the couple.

And that, my friends, is where we often run into a roadblock. Having a child is probably (I assume, since I’ve never done it) one of the most incredible things you can do. But it should be your decision — not anyone else’s.

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50 Reasons I’m Thankful For My Spouse Challenge

This week, clearly part of the American Thanksgiving Holiday, the wonderful folks over at Beating 50 posted this challenge:

“In light of thanksgiving, we wanted to invite you all to join us in making a list of 50 reasons why you are thankful for your husband or wife (or fiancé, boyfriend, girlfriend). Let’s thank our loved one for the little things and the big things! Thankfulness produces joy, and joy is what we want our marriages to be marked by! We hope that our lists of thanksgiving, inspire you to write and share your own with your spouse!”

This was my first Thanksgiving as a married woman, and really our first holiday as a married couple! (We got married in mid-July.) We’ve spent the last few Thanksgivings together, but there was something different about this one. Just knowing that we’re married and we’re really a family now, just made everything feel better, more connected.

So, Beating 50, I’ll take your challenge. Fifty reasons I’m thankful for my husband… here we go!

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What I’ve Learned In 2 Months of Marriage

This past Friday, my husband and I celebrated our two-month wedding anniversary. While two months may not seem a lot, especially in comparison to those who have been married five, 10, even 30 or more years…. it’s not meaningless, and it means a lot to us. The past two months have been an incredible start to our journey together!

With that being said, here’s a few things I’ve learned in our two months of marital bliss.

1. Communication is key.

I mean, obviously, this is the case in ANY relationship – platonic or romantic, professional or personal. If you aren’t communicating well, it’s going to be a struggle no matter what the level of your relationship is. But that’s definitely true when it comes to marriage. Communicating your thoughts, your wishes, your hopes for the future… all important to have a successful marriage, and probably something every couple can always work on improving! Your marriage is worth investing in – so do it!

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Datebox, August 2016: Purpose

14039946_10207566436423074_8308632258358416611_nI was so excited to finally receive our first Datebox this month and, naturally, wanted to share my thoughts right here!

For those who don’t know, Datebox is a monthly ‘box’ service where, each month, you receive a “date in a box.” Each month is different, and it’s designed to get couples to go back to having “date nights,” even if you’re busy, married, have kids, etc. I thought this was such a cute idea when I stumbled upon it and just had to give it a try.

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