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Five Minutes of Productivity: January 27

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Do you have five minutes out of your day to do something productive? Maybe you’re sitting idly at your computer staring into space………. here’s one thing you can spend just FIVE minutes on that can make a small difference in your day.

Five minutes of productivity: Spend just five minutes (maybe even less!) going through your email inbox and hitting ‘unsubscribe’ to all those newsletters you always get but never read. Personally, I get plenty of email every day…. and a good majority of it ends up getting deleted without even being read. The “Get Fit!” newsletter that I subscribed to with good intentions six months ago and only read once, the hotel rewards offer I got that I won’t use, the newsletter from a sports apparel site that I bought something off of once……. things like that. I don’t read them, so why should I keep getting them and then having to go through the process of deleting them? Take five minutes to go through and unsubscribe to at least a few of these. It’ll help unclutter your inbox and save you from having to delete those emails day… after day….. after day.

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What’s Your Passion?

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Our friends at Merriam-Webster define passion as: “a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something.” I’d say that’s about right, and today, passion is something I’d like to write a little bit about. A lot of the time, when someone has a passion for something, others who are unable to understand or grasp that concept see it in a negative light; they say the person is a nerd, a geek, weird, strange, etc. But having a passion related to some sort of interest is one of the greatest things you can have in life.

It fuels you, drives you. It can open so many new worlds, introduce you to new people, new places, even new opportunities. Being passionate about something is not a crime; it doesn’t make someone strange. Passion invigorates a person and allows them to have something special in their lives that a lot of people might be missing out on. Passion gives people the chance to have a special interest that allows them to escape from everything around them in their daily lives. Through passion, we thrive.

So what are you passionate about? For me, I’ve got hockey and writing; to a lesser extent, I’ve got interests in going to the theater and Civil War-era history, but I’m not quite sure those have fully blossomed into passions just yet. But whatever your passion is – a hobby, a sport, a genre of movies or books or what have you – go with it. Let it drive you, let it move you, and let it bring you to new places, people and opportunities in life, now and in the future.

As Aldous Huxley said: “I want to know what passion is. I want to feel something strongly.”

 

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Sharing My Story

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With the new year beginning just a few days ago, I’m trying to keep up with reading Demi Lovato’s book, “Staying Strong: 365 Days a Year.” It’s only a few days in, but I’m going to try. Today’s page related to reaching out to others, to help others, as Demi did in publicly discussing her struggles with issues such as self-harm, in the hope that by discussing these struggles, others who are dealing with them may be more likely to seek help or be willing to talk about their own issues. It is in this vein of thought that I decided today to sit down and write about my own experience with mental health, depression, stress, social anxiety and other issues, in the hope that maybe even just one person will read my story and be a little less afraid to seek the help they may need. I know that other people have it worse than I do; I know I have a lot to be thankful for, and my struggles have definitely taught me a lot. I never struggled with self-harm, but depression was something that plagued me for a long time. But depression doesn’t mean you always have a dark cloud over your head; sometimes it gets a little lighter and you think things are going better, until they aren’t anymore – at least, that’s what it was for me.

Whether we like to admit it or not, there is a stigma associated with mental illness. And quite frankly, having a mental illness can be embarrassing. It’s embarrassing to be unable to complete a seemingly simple task and to have to tell someone “I’m sorry, my mind was in a very bad place today and I just couldn’t handle it without breaking down.” It’s embarrassing to leave a job because of your mental or emotional state, perhaps unrelated to the job completely. So we come up with excuses, other things to tell people, lies to cover our issues and ways to get around the things that we may be struggling with. There’s also the issues that these words are thrown around so carelessly nowadays; people have one bad day and immediately say things like “Ugh, I’m depressed.” But depression is a serious issue, recurring over time and it’s not something to be taken lightly.

But none of this helps; it doesn’t address the issues, it doesn’t bring them out into the open and it further envelopes things in this stigma where many people associate mental illness with being weak, sickly, childish, etc. or allowing people to think of mental illness as something that can just be swept under the rug to be dealt with when it’s convenient. Mental illness is never convenient, but it’s something we as individuals, as communities, as a society, must deal with. Now.

This is my story, and I hope you’ll join me along the way. Though my struggles are not over – and perhaps depression and anxiety are things that I may deal with in some way every day for the rest of my life – I feel more positive, more able to cope and ready to share my story in the hope that it may help even one person somewhere in the world.

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Facing Your Worst Enemy

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Before you go ahead and click into the cut of this blog post, I want you to do a (very brief) exercise. Take a minute or two to think about the following questions, and try to come up with one – or maybe more – people who you think would answer the question regarding your life.

1) Is there someone in your life who is holding you back from recognizing your dreams and full potential?

2) Is there someone who belittles you, puts you down, and discourages you from doing things due to the potential for failure?

3) Is there someone who makes you question your abilities, even when things are going seemingly well? For instance – let’s say you just started a new job, one you are definitely qualified for but that may be very different from a previous position. Is there someone who tells you “I don’t know if you can handle that?”

Have you figured it out yet?

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How Much Interest is Enough?

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I haven’t been feeling particularly inspired to write lately, but I’m really going to try and be better about keeping up this blog. I just started a new job – my first full-time endeavor – so obviously that’s a bit of an adjustment along with all of the other aspects of my life. But: no excuses, let’s move forward.

One thing that’s been on my mind has been thinking about the level of interest we show in others. How much is too much, too quickly? How much is not enough? For future reference: I’m talking about when you first meet someone, romantic or friendly.

On a personal level, it’s definitely one big gray area for me and really depends on the individual situation. If I meet someone and then all of a sudden they’re texting me nonstop and constantly want to spend time together, that might be overbearing and downright annoying. That’s just too much interest, too fast, for my comfort level.

But at the same time, if I feel as though someone is TOO lax about talking to me, I’ll give up on them. Because if you’re not showing an interest in me, why would I waste my time trying to form something with you? If you always take forever to respond to messages and constantly make excuses to get out of spending time with me – why on earth would I bother?

In the end, it’s a rhetorical question. How much interest is enough, and how do you know when you’re not showing enough (or when you’re showing too much) interest in someone? I suppose in the end, it depends on the individual involved and it’s a fine line to cross….. one giant grey area between “never shows any interest, seems not to care at all” and “shows the “right” amount of interest and is someone I’m interested in building a friendship or relationship with” and “holy wow, you’re overbearing and you need to take a step back, I barely know you and this isn’t making me want to get to know you.”

I know I can say personally I’ve had experiences with people falling in all three of those areas. I think the important thing here is to be able to recognize where YOUR limits are; to be able to walk away when you feel someone isn’t giving you the interest you deserve; to recognize when someone is being overbearing and not be afraid to shut them down and turn them away and tell them to stop; and to realize when something’s reached a good, comfortable level for you. It’s also something to be mindful of in your relationships with others – appreciate that everyone’s levels may be different, and know when to pick things up a little or when to stop and back off.