How many times do you say ‘no’ in a typical day? A typical week? How many times do you turn down people, turn down opportunities, turn down chances to expand your repertoire? How many times do you opt out of going places or doing things? Do you ever look back and regret it afterwards? Maybe saying ‘no’ is holding you back, and maybe you don’t even realize it. Maybe saying ‘YES!’ more often could be the change you need in your life.
It’s not an easy skill to practice. It’s almost as if our minds have been trained to say no. I’m too lazy to go out. I don’t feel like it. I have no money to do anything fun. Meh. Some other time.
Why not give YES a chance?
I want to give you a challenge. Try saying YES! instead of no from now on. I’m not saying you have to agree to every single thing someone else wants to do. Obviously you have to know your limits and your responsibilities; if you can’t take a week off work without getting in trouble, don’t say yes to someone who wants to go on a week-long vacation. If you don’t want to kiss that person, say no. That’s not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about those times when someone asks you to go out and you simply don’t feel like it, you’re too lazy to get dressed or you just want to sit home or you’d rather spend the day alone. Say yes once in a while instead. Say yes to trying a new food, going somewhere new, seeing a movie you might actually hate (but hey, you could end up loving it!) Saying yes – that one little word can make such a difference. It can open your eyes to so many new things and new experiences that you couldn’t even dream of.
Of course, this is a skill that I personally am working on as well. It’s definitely not easy, but it can certainly be beneficial. For instance, just last weekend, I was all set and ready to go walk to the mall by myself or sit home all weekend and do absolutely nothing but relax. A friend asked me if I wanted to go for a drive; I said yes, and we ended up driving for half the day. I saw some new places I’d never been to before, got to spend some quality time with a friend I hadn’t seen in a few months, and it was a much better day than I would have had otherwise. The next day, another friend asked me if I was at all interested in going to a local food festival; even though it was sunny and warm outside and I didn’t know if I’d want to spend hours walking around with a bunch of people, I said yes, and it was fun.
I wouldn’t have had those experiences if I said no. Saying yes isn’t always easy; sometimes it might end up being the wrong decision, but more likely than not, it can lead to some new experiences, new people and really broaden your horizons. So next time, try saying yes.