Posted in Love, Marriage & Relationships, Uncategorized

My Problem With Valentine’s Day

Every year, February 14th rolls around and I’m reminded that I always have issues with the idea of Valentine’s Day. On the most basic level, it’s great. Valentine’s Day is intended as a day to celebrate our loved ones, appreciate our relationships with others and really treat each other specially.

But here’s my question: shouldn’t we be doing this EVERY day, not just February 14th? We should show our loved ones just how much we care 365 days out of the year. February 13th is no different than February 14th, which is no different from February 15th. These days are all equal and whether or not there’s a line of text on the calendar that proclaims it a holiday, we should be appreciating those we love.

Not to mention, segregating a specific day for this only makes a lot of people in society feel worse. Don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day? It may or may not bother you, but seeing tons of your friends post “cute couples” photos does nothing to lessen the string. Just gone through a breakup? Good luck. In a stressed, tension-filled relationship? Well, this probably won’t be easy.

Even if you’re in a new relationship, or a long-standing great one, pushing out one specific day just puts a lot of pressure on that day. You feel like you have to get the “right” gift, or make it a “perfect” day, but really, what makes this day any different from the others?

In reality, every day should be a day that we appreciate those in our lives. Not just romantic partners or significant others, but our friends and family, too. Love isn’t something you feel for just your boyfriend or girlfriend; it’s something you feel for everyone in your life — so share it with them.

So I ask you: show your loved ones that you care every day of the year. Buy your girlfriend flowers on March 21st, August 7th, May 12th and February 14th. Get chocolates for your husband on January 19th, September 6th, December 9th and February 14th. Hug your loved ones more than just one specific day of the year. Reach out to those you care about every day. Make a special gesture any day of the year, not just February 14th.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.”

Posted in Miscellaneous

Hockey Fights Domestic Violence: My Pledge

Just recently, I discovered a wonderful campaign of sorts that I’m excited to be joining. The project is called Hockey Fights Domestic Violence; according to its website, it’s:

“a loose-knit group of hockey-loving fans who have pledged donations to domestic violence organizations based on how their favorite teams and players perform.”

This is a great initiative that I’m more than happy to start supporting. The premise of the initiative is simple: pick a hockey player and a stat, and donate a dollar amount for every point/goal/whatever. I wish I had discovered this earlier in the season, but alas, there’s no better time than the present, right?

For my charity for this project, I’m going to donate to Crisis Services, a Western New York organization that offers a number of services, including services for those affected by domestic violence. Crisis Services also works in things including homelessness, suicide prevention and mental health, which is part of why I selected them as my designated charity. My proceeds will go to an organization that helps out in a variety of ways, and I can’t wait to get started.

My pledge for this project is as follows. Starting today, January 29, I will donate:

  • 50¢ for every point scored by Rochester Americans forward Phil Varone
  • 50¢ for every point scored by Toronto Marlies forward Connor Brown
  • 50¢ for every hit by Buffalo Sabres defenseman Mike Weber
  • 25¢ for every point scored by Erie Otters forward Dylan Strome

I hope that signing up with this allows me to make a difference, even if in some small way, and help out an organization and an absolutely worthy cause.

If you’re interested in making your own #hockeyfightsdv pledge, go for it! You can find more information about the initiative, as well as get an idea of what others have pledged and find some ideas for suggested organizations to donate to, on their website or by searching the hashtag on Twitter. Let me know if you’re planning on joining the cause – or perhaps you’re already joined it!

Posted in A Better You, Uncategorized

Daily Challenge: A Technology-Free Meal

How many times have you eaten a meal with family or friends, only to have half of the people at the table otherwise distracted by their cell phones? Technology can be a wonderful thing, but… it can also be a pain sometimes. Is there anything more frustrating than trying to sit down and have a nice dinner with someone, only to have them sit there texting, Facebook messaging, Tweeting and Instagraming instead? To be honest – it never really bothered me, and *I* have definitely been that person who uses their phone during dinner…. but I think about it more and more, and in all honesty — it’s pretty dang annoying and slightly disrespectful, and I’m trying to get out of the habit of doing this. To me, it says that you don’t really care about the person you’re sitting down to share a meal with, and you’d clearly rather be somewhere else. Like I said: a little disrespectful.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we all just put our technology away and focused on real, intimate, face-to-face conversation, even if just for one meal?

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Posted in A Better You, Food, Health & Fitness

The Journey of Recovery

Just over a year ago, I decided to be brave, suck up any bit of courage I had, and share my store of my struggles with all you lovely Internet folk. At the time, that was arguably one of the hardest things I’ve ever done – but looking back, I’m glad that I did it. It’s been just over a year since I posted that piece about my struggles with depression, anxiety and counseling… and I thought it was time to check in, and see how this chapter of my life is going.

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Writer’s Block: Something I Love To Do

I absolutely love writing. It has been my passion for as long as I can remember, but even I often hit the extremely frustrating brick wall that is writer’s block. Recently, I’ve found myself searching on the Internet for inspirations, little sparks to get my writing going again. Today’s spark comes from a blog from 2008, written by Jennifer Roach, entitled “Pro Writing Tips.” The post is called, simply enough, “100 jump-starters to cure your writer’s block.” I actually found this one through StumbleUpon and found some intriguing ideas, so here we are. Idea #16 on Roach’s list is to “describe something you love to do.”

Well, something I love to do is….. to write. So I suppose this is where I will write…. about how I love to write.

I think there is something magical about writing. It’s about putting together strings of what could otherwise be meaningless words and creating something from that. Taking these letters, which are in their very own essence just meaningless curves and lines and combinations of those things, taking those and making something amazing out of them. There are so many words in so many languages across the world. We can use tools like punctuation and syntax to really develop something: an idea, a story, a song. We can create tones and moods, provide textual descriptions that are so spectacular it will make readers visualize and turn your words into images.

We can write in love, or in hate; in despair, in times of sadness or depression, in times of elation and excitement. We can write a lot or not at all. We can use a word to make a sentence (“Yes!”) or two words (“I ran.”) or more and more words. We can use run-on sentences (try not to, though). Writing gives us an infinite amount of power. The power of words has always been a factor in our lives, and the power of the written word is no different. We can share our thoughts, feelings, ideas and opinions with others, or we can write simply for ourselves. We can write in so many ways, too: with paper and pen or pencil or crayon, electronically on our laptops or cell phones or other devices. We can write in the sand with a broken twig or in the mud in the same manner. We can write to change the world, to change ourselves, or for any number of other reasons.

Writing is, in my mind, a magical form of art. It is a craft, a passion for me, and I believe writing is my one, true calling in life. My goal has always been to use my writing to change the world in some way, and I fully intend on doing just that.